My Ears Are Bleeding
I think Buttons has a bit of a cold and she also has a huge case of the whines. She's been having trouble getting to sleep and staying asleep lately so I know that's a big part of it. I need a bit of whine free sanity, so I'm going to have the mantra "it's just a stage" playing through my head for the rest of the day. If anyone wants to chime in and remind me of that, feel free.
Yes, that's a picture Buttons took with her camera.
Yes, that's a picture Buttons took with her camera.
posted by Katie J @ 8:59 AM
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Even the sweetest of Buttons gets whiney at times. Hugs, you, KJMama. I know that it is hard. But! It is your BDay coming up - and there are so many pictures to take with your new toy!!
Shoulda known you were a Scorpio. XO
I must have theater on the brain! When I first read "it's just a stage," I thought you were referring to—you know, the stage, the one we'll be walking on together in 18th century France?
And oddly enough, it made perfect sense to me. I thought: "Ah, so she means buttons is 'acting,' and however good she does, deep down you know she's okay." Then I thought, wait, maybe she means: "Ah, I just need to remember that life is a stage, and a big part of what we do is performance. I need to perform the calm, collected mom, and the reality will follow."
Then, finally, I realized what you meant. D'oh!
Really, though, all three possibilities work for me. I know when Sylvia gets whiney, she's "acting out," and sometimes testing my limits. And I know I have to act "limitless," even when the line's been crossed.
And, yes, I know that someday she's going to be too old to whine. I held her last night and realized that, when she's sixteen or twenty-eight or so, I simply won't be able to do that. I won't miss the whines, no, but I'll miss carrying her.
I guess every stage (and maybe ever definition of stage) has its good parts and its bad.
Thanks guys, I needed that. It's wonderful to be Buttons' mom, no buts about it. Some days the whine is just very big. However, I prefer her to be strong and opinionated than to cower and never address her concerns. I'll just keep trying to give her words so she can really express her needs and frustrations. (Joys and happiness too!)
Oh my - the whining. Giiirrrrl, I'm convinced that whining DOES cause our ears to bleed. Have no guilt bitching about the whines; it's just downright painful.
UGH, if you find a trick that seems to work with Buttons, please share it.
When Allie starts with the whining we tell her once, in a matter-of-fact voice, that we don't answer whines and then ignore her requests until she asks sans whining. We give her a few minutes to regather her thoughts and if she doesn't stop we'll use the 1,2,3 Magic techniques. This works about 1/2 of the time. Better than never, right?
Anyhoo, you are right, it is absolutely a stage. With that said, however, I believe if we cater to (or give in to) the whining that the whiney behavior will grow roots and go from a stage to a personality trait. **shudder**
And if all else fails, there's earplugs and duct tape. :0)
MY granddaughter...WHINE? Never! She's just giving mommy a history lesson of HER "stage" with Nani!!
Grownup whines are still out there. Just ask JuJu!! Love U!
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